I assume that the world has been spinning for the last four years. I can only assume this, as I have not actually witnessed it for myself. You see, I have spent the last four years at home with only two toddlers to keep me company. While I love them dearly, spending every moment with them has left me feeling, for lack of a better word, alienated. So, when last week a woman called me up and offered me an ideal job, at a place I had often thought I would like to work, I took it.
Accepting the job left me emotionally conflicted, somehow, getting what I wanted made me more stressed than ever. I was thrilled with the job offer, but suddenly I had to make a big decision. Going back to work might make me happy, but what would it mean for my family. My children’s happiness meant so much more to me than my own, how could I consider compromising it for a little personal fulfillment?
Then, even more questions arose. While they may be happy at home with me, was I giving them enough stimulation? Was I giving them everything they needed to grow up? Was I being selfish in thinking they needed me? Did I need them? Why couldn’t I quit talking in questions?
After some soul searching, and opinions from everyone I ever met and some I didn’t, (everyone wants to weigh in on this one) I decided that maybe it would be good for the kids to have a little time to grow up independent of me and each other. Besides, opportunity doesn’t knock too often, best to take the job and try it, rather than burn the bridge. In nine months my oldest will be in kindergarten and my youngest will be in preschool, then what will I do (I mean after I dance the jig and do naked cartwheels up and down the street (just kidding, I can’t do cartwheels)).
Once this was settled, a new drama was unfolding… daycare. I had no experience with daycare. I had no idea how hard finding adequate day care was. Actually finding inadequate day care is kind of tricky if you want to know the truth. There are only limited numbers of slots for kids of each age group. It is actually easier to create weapons of mass destruction than it is to obtain one of these slots. It seems women sign for these slots years before conception, and in most states, must give at least one vital organ as a deposit. When I called around town looking for a day care, there were audible snickers coming from the other end of the line when I told them that I needed to start in two weeks. It was only by the grace of God that I happened to call a school the same day that another child’s family gave notice that they were moving out of state. This final hurdle passed, I was able to start my new job. Many adjustments have taken place and I know many more will come, but right now, I’m happy with my decision.